Building Healthy Relationships Within Christ
Weekly Challenge: Write 3 list one is a list of your values, the next will be a list of your morals, and then of your boundaries that you refuse to compromise about yourself when it comes to building healthy relationships with people.
Example: Value: I love Jesus and Jesus is important to me if you have any type of relationship with me you must know I refuse to change that.
Example Morals: I want to remain celibate until I get married and If I never get married I still want to remain celibate.
Example: Boundaries: I don’t want anyone talking to me or trying to grope me in any sexual or disrespectful way ( I refuse to be seen as a piece of meat and not as a human being)
Ice Breaker: Is to start a Short List below to begin your Challenge.
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Read Daniel Chapter 3 (Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego) This is the story of 3 Hebrew Boys who could either stand up for what was right(standing up for God) or crumble under pressure to be thrown in the fiery furnace to death. They decided to do what was right and stand up for God!
Question: When the heat rises will you stand up for your Values, Boundaries, and Morals?
Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Living on this earth we all try to build relationships with tons of people. These Relationships can be with God, work, on our jobs, in school, social places, within our families, with our children, as well as our spouse. The bible says in 1: John 4:8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. If we cannot love God when he is love how can we love those around us who are searching for what God is [[ LOVE]].
So often we have fears that come with building relationships with people because any and all relationships can leave you feeling vulnerable. The bible in 1 John 4:18 -There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. So we must learn to love the way God originally intended us to.
Today’s society has lessened the boundaries that we hold for each other. Many people no longer care about their Morals, Values, Nor do they set Boundaries for themselves. Or a lot of us just compromise our values and lessen everything we stand for because having a certain relationship in our lives even if it is destructive to ourselves is better than [[Nothing]].
Question: Is there a relationship in your life on the job, school, friendship, family, parent, and spouse, whichever the relationship is that is very damaging to you?
1 Corinthians 15:33- Do not be deceived: “Evil Company corrupts good habits.”
If you don’t make boundaries on what you will and will not stand for your company will corrupt those values that you have set for yourself.
Something to Think About: If you had a house would you just want someone to come into your house and destroy everything you worked hard for? Or every time you try and tell them to stop after you have allowed them to destroy everything for so long they won’t take you serious at all because you never set boundaries when they first came into your life you let them do whatever you wanted them to. If NO: then why would you just want someone to destroy you, you have made it this far in life to get knocked down and continue to be left with your face in the mud (get up dust yourself off and start over with yourself) If YES: then it’s time that you look deep inside yourself and it’s time to set boundaries for your life and stand by them.
1 Corinthians 6:15-20
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” 17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.
Verse 15-17 when you give your life to Christ you and Christ become one. God becomes what is known as your bride/groom. Like any person who love’s or cares for you when we do wrong we hurt God. Just like in verse 15 when its talks about if you join together with a harlot(prostitute) she is likely to betray you if you catch some type of feeling for them but still you are joined together and your souls become tied. So even if you don’t catch feeling your spirits still connect and can bring harm. That’s what’s it like for God when you do something sinful when you have a connection/relationship with God you hurt God with what you are doing within your body.
Yes this scripture says to flee from sexual immorality but if you know there is something that you value other than sexual sin do not fall for it do what is right.
Example: If someone who is an alcoholic keeps going around those who drink its more likely for them to stumble. Mark 14:38-Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” The Verse says watch because even though you don’t want to do it anymore you have to watch out for those things because we are flesh and though we want to stay strong in spirit we become weak because our flesh can take over.
Relationship Quiz
1. Would you want a relationship with someone who only talks to you when they need
something?
Yes No
2. Would you want a relationship with someone who only talks to you once a day?
Yes No
3. Would you want a relationship with someone who makes no time for you?
Yes No
4. Would you want a relationship with someone who doesn't even mention you when they are with their friends or family?
Yes No
5. Would you want a relationship with someone who doesn't even think about you at all?
Yes No
6. Would you want a relationship with someone who is using you because everything you have?
Yes No
7. Would you want a relationship with someone who only comes around once a week?
Yes No
8. Would you want a relationship with someone who that when you talk to them they ignore you?
Yes No
9. Would you want a relationship with someone who is always cursing you?
Yes No
10. Would you want a relationship with someone who is always lying saying they will change but keep doing the same things over and over?
Yes No
11. Would you want a relationship with someone who is cheating on you?
Yes No
12. Would you want a relationship with someone who looks at other people in a lustful way?
Yes No
13. Would you want a relationship with someone who as soon as times get hard they turn their back on you?
Yes No
If your answer to all these questions is No: Then why would you think God wants his relationship with you to be that way?
